New Year On Purpose

 As the year ends and a New Year opens, it’s valuable to reflect on what occurred for you in 2018, opening the possibility to release, renew, and reengage as you step in to the next year. Here are some questions to assist with that process. Let it be intentional, for intention is what sets the foundation for the life you want to live.

What’s been going on in 2018?  

  • What are the high points of the year?

  • What have been the challenges?

  • How would you define success this year?

  • What part of the challenges are in the success?

What are you most grateful for?

  • What are the top 3-5 experiences?

  • How did you participate in creating those experiences?

Where has the growth been? What has been the catalyst for that growth?

What are you most proud of?  What does that feel like in your body, heart and mind?

What surprised you?

What is left undone? Can it be left undone?

What can be forgiven? Or, what could you have the intention to forgive?

What is being healed? How do you experience that? What opens the door for healing?

What can you let go of? Or, what could you have the intention to let go of? What could you do to commemorate the release so you remember?

Where are you going in 2019?

  • What is next for you?

  • What is the dream inside the next steps?

  • What 1 action are you taking today to begin?

“Look ahead to the rest of your life and ask yourself what you want it to add up to.”

-Pema Chodron

 

 

 

 

 

Mindful Checklist for Pausing; Step Into the Gap

 

Pause. Right Here. Right Now. When you stop, and pause you make room for yourself to be in life. You contact yourself and see what you think, feel, need, and desire. The pause allows you to care for yourself and honor your experience.

It is said that  pausing is the beginning of all healing practices. So, when you step into the space that pausing allows you begin to heal yourself of strife, anxiety, and overwhelm.  You release tension in the body even if only for a moment. This is not easy to do because you are either being pushed along in life or find yourself rushing into life, and both instances create a push/pull dynamic that is exhausting. You are caught in the middle of life.

Contraction and tension become the norm as you work hard to take care of all that needs to be cared for.  This dynamic is unsustainable and creates a pervasive sense of unease and sometimes dissatisfaction. This stressful pushing and pulling is the on ramp to adverse health conditions. Give yourself the gift of learning to pause. Use this mindful checklist to stop, contact, breathe and make room for you to move through life with more ease.

  • Stop, literally slow down to a complete stop

  • Take a breath; deep inhale and slow continuous exhale. Do this a few times.

  • Know that you are here; feel your feet on the ground and the weight of your body.

  • Look up and out to the world; take in your surroundings with all of your senses. Notice what you are seeing, hearing, smelling, feeling, be in this experience.

  • Bring a slight smile to your face. This sends a message to your nervous system that all is okay.

  • Experience a sensation of settling within the pause; a feeling of being grounded and present.

  • Proceed after the pause, knowing you have stepped into a gap inside the busy day and allowed yourself a full stop.

  • Ask; what is it like to be present even for a few moments?

“Now and then it's good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy.”

Guillaume Apollinaire

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